Disability Doesn't Mean Differently Abled. It Also Doesn't Mean Incapable.
When I was young, I asked my mom why I was born with cerebral palsy. I was the only kid in class rolling around with a shiny metal walker with those red handles. (My fellow four-wheeled friends might know exactly what I‘m talking about). As a kid, I didn’t really notice much of a difference between my classmates and myself, but something seemed off.
She said something to the effect of me being born this way so that I can be a voice for others who may be in worse condition than I am and show able-bodied folk that people with disabilities are just like everyone else and have a lot to offer.
Of course, she probably said this in a more simplistic way to her then-tiny son, who had a reading level closer to that of one of the Rugrats. The sentiment is admirable and it’s probably a great message to a young mind as you mold it to be accepting, understanding, and empathetic. Here’s the thing, though…
It’s kind of BS. At least somewhat. Being disabled is less than ideal to put it lightly.
There is no reason for it. Those with physical and cognitive disabilities are not like everyone else. People like myself face challenges every day that can’t truly be replicated otherwise. It takes a real toll physically, mentally, and emotionally that sometimes can’t be improved on or even salvaged. It’s just how it is. What everyone can relate to, however, is the idea of the struggle itself.
Everyone had their own stories, traumas, fears, vices, etc. So, while you, the reader, may or may not be able to relate or understand how it feels to be confined to a mobility aid, You can probably relate to the idea of a dream that won’t be fulfilled, or something being taken from you through no fault of your own, or being judged or marginalized for your appearance.
While disabled individuals are not like everyone else; they do have a lot to offer under the correct and accommodating circumstances.
So, that is what I want to talk about. The pains, struggles, successes, and everything in between when it comes to living with a disability. I must disclose. I am no expert. I can only speak from my own experience living my entire life with cerebral palsy. I’m hoping you can relate, understand and learn.
I’m getting something out of this too. I probably need to get some of this out in the open.